Child Care
What All Children Want Their Parents to Know.by Diana Loomans and Julia Godoy“Teach me to love and care for myself
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The Balancing Act of ParenthoodWe want the best for our children; we want them to feel loved and accepted and to grow up feeling empowered. Sometimes we fall into the same patterns and ways in which we were raised, even though we are trying not to, or we choose a parenting style which is the complete opposite to how we were brought up. The reality is that our children might not feel accepted or empowered even in the most “ideal” childhood and this is due to their perception of what’s happening to themselves. In understanding the fundamentals of how a child operates and what they need, however, can help you to create a space where your child can grow up into an emotionally stable, happy child no matter what basic parenting style you adopt.
Helping your Child with Fear and AnxietySometimes our children feel anxious, fearful and insecure. It could be for an event that is taking place, like going to the dentist, starting a new school, going through a divorce or being left with the babysitter for the night. It is normal for all of us, even us adults, to feel afraid at times, but there is a productive and very effective way of alleviating the stress and helping your child to integrate the new or stressful experience they need to go through. Using this technique is also beneficial in helping children to regain a state of routine after some change has taken place.
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The Mark of Current Technology upon our Children - Life Within the MachineA CranioSacral Approach - compiled by Michele Wolhuter RCSTIf you are over the age of 30, then you are one of the last generations to experience your childhood without the influence of current media technology. If you are American, then you need to be over the age of about 50. Your childhood was very different from your own children’s, and new evidence is suggesting that your children’s cognitive abilities will not be as complete, or advanced as yours are, even though they have the potential to rise far above you in brain capability. This is, in part, because of the influence and effect of media exposure on the developing brain of the child.
The Benefits of CryingCrying is a very misunderstood subject. Most people do not like to hear a baby cry and will find some way to quieten the baby down, usually one of the above methods. One must realise that just as you have feelings which need to be expressed, so does a baby. A baby who cries is trying to communicate with you. Of course there are physical needs which need to be met, and so a baby might cry when she is hungry, have a dirty nappy, be too hot or cold or need to change position, but she might also be unhappy about something else and need to release stress in order to relax. Just as you would tell a friend about your bad day at work, a baby would want to express her stresses of the day. As I wrote in a previous article, The Mind of a Newborn Baby, babies have feelings. One may think that they come into this world and live a stress-free existence until they grow up and have to earn a living, but in actual fact, being a baby is an extremely stressful and vulnerable time of life. I have heard comments such as "oh, how wonderful it must be to be three months old, just eat and sleep", but being a baby brings tons of stresses of their own, you just can't remember them.
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